Jawaban TUHAN

Tuhan punya 3 jawaban atas doa dan permohonan kita:
1. Tuhan menanjawab YA.. dan doa permohonan kita di kabulkan.
2. Tuhan menjawab TUNGGU.. dan memberi kepada kita yang lebih baik.
3. Tuhan menjawab TIDAK.. dan menyiapkan rencana lain sesuai dengan kehendak-NYA yang pasti adalah yang terbaik untuk hidup kita.

Seringkali kita merasa bahwa doa dan permohonan kita tidak di dengarkan dan tidak di jawab oleh Tuhan, namun sesungguhnya, setiap doa dan permohonan kita selalu di dengarkan dan tidak pernah terlewatkan oleh Tuhan, hanya saja seringkali jawaban atas doa kita adalah TUNGGU dan TIDAK.

Hendaklah kita senantiasa sujud bersyukur dan tidak pernah sedikitpun meragukan Tuhan, yang maha tahu tentang apa yang terbaik untuk hidup kita dan maha bijak untuk menyikapi rasa tidak puas kita.

Wajib Bicara 7 Topik Ini Sebelum Menikah

Penyanyi yang sedang naik daun, Katy Perry dikabarkan bercerai dari aktor dan komedian yang 14 bulan lalu dinikahinya, Russel Brand. Apa penyebabnya? Hanya pasangan ini yang mengetahui sepenuhnya. Namun US Weekly menyebutkan, hubungan keduanya memanas karena dipicu kurangnya penghargaan Brand atas keyakinan orangtua Perry.

Jika benar hal ini menjadi pemicu perceraian, bukan hanya Perry dan Brands yang mengalaminya. Banyak pasangan yang bermasalah dalam hubungannya karena konflik dengan mertua terkait berbagai isu. Jeanine dan Mark Earnhart, pasangan penulis Marriage Works, bahkan mengatakan konflik dengan mertua berada dalam urutan pertama sumber masalah dalam pernikahan.

Menurut Earnhart, pasangan baru menikah, umumnya, menghadapi lima masalah ini: konflik dengan mertua, keuangan, seks, waktu bersama teman tanpa pasangan, dan berbagai hal terkait kebiasaan di rumah tangga. "Kunci untuk mengatasi berbagai masalah pasangan baru menikah adalah komunikasi. Jika pasangan terus meningkatkan kemampuan berkomunikasi sejak awal menikah, mereka dapat membicarakan dan menyelesaikan berbagai masalah," jelas Earnhart.

Tina B Tessina, PhD, psikoterapis dan penulis buku Money, Sex and Kids: Stop Fighting about the Three Things That? Can Ruin Your Marriage, menyarankan pasangan punya tugas penting sebelum menikah.  Tessina yang populer dipanggil Dr Romance ini mengatakan ada beberapa pertanyaan yang perlu diajukan dan didiskusikan Anda dan dia sebelum resmi menikah.

 
1. Apa defenisi komitmen menurut Anda dan dia? 

Jika Anda dan dia tak memahami makna hubungan berpasangan, maka keduanya berpotensi mengulangi kesalahan, terjebak dalam peran-peran yang membuat keduanya tak nyaman, dan terus menerus bersilang pendapat dalam memaknai hubungan yang sehat.

2. Sudahkah Anda membicarakan mengenai keuangan? 

Kebiasaan Anda dan dia dalam mengelola uang berbeda. Tak masalah jika Anda dan dia masih sama-sama lajang. Namun ketika memutuskan menikah, bicarakan mengenai bagaimana cara mengelola uang setelah menikah. Karena perbedaan ini dapat menjadi pemicu pertengkaran pasangan.

3. Bagaimana pengaturan peran dan tanggung jawab di rumah tangga? 

Sebelum tinggal bersama, cobalah mengenal bagaimana kebiasaan di rumah masing-masing. Luangkan waktu untuk mengenal kebiasaan keluarga pasangan. Perbedaan yang dratis seperti cara mendekorasi rumah, kebersihan, pengaturan di rumah tangga dapat menjadi pemicu pertengkaran pasangan menikah muda.

4. Sedekat apa Anda dengan keluarga dan teman-teman? 

Jika Anda memiliki banyak teman dan berasal dari keluarga besar, sementara si dia tidak, atau sebaliknya, mulailah untuk membicarakan makna hubungan berpasangan. Pembicaraan ini perlu dilakukan mendetil. Seperti di mana Anda dan dia akan merayakan liburan misalnya, terutama saat hari raya, apakah di keluarganya atau di keluarga Anda, atau tidak di keduanya. Jangan anggap sepele masalah seperti ini. Berbagai hal terkait keluarga perlu dibicarakan dengan pasangan, agar nantinya setelah menikah Anda dan dia siap menjalani apapun tantangan ke depan.

5. Bagaimana Anda dan dia mengelola emosi dan mengatasi amarah? 

 Wajar saja jika Anda kadang kesal dan marah karena sesuatu hal. Namun jika Anda terbiasa mengelola emosi dengan baik, dan bersikap suportif terhadap pasangan untuk melewati berbagai masa sulit di masa awal pernikahan, hubungan emosi Anda dan dia akan semakin mendalam seiring berjalannya waktu.

6. Bagaimana cara Anda dan dia menunjukkan kasih sayang?  

Membicarakan apa makna cinta dalam bentuk tindakan juga ucapan dapat menjadi topik hangat yang seru. Anda dan dia hanya perlu terbuka mendiskusikannya. Dengan cara ini, Anda dan dia saling memahami bagaimana cara memberi dan menerima cinta, yang nantinya berdampak pada kualitas hubungan Anda.

7. Seberapa baik Anda mendiskusikan berbagai pertanyaan ini? 

 Bertanya kepada diri sendiri menjadi langkah awal untuk menggali kemampuan Anda mengenali dan menyelesaikan masalah. Diskusi yang konstruktif bersama pasangan akan menghasilkan solusi yang saling memuaskan kedua belah pihak. Jika Anda dan dia sudah mencobanya, namun tak juga berhasil, mulailah mencari bantuan konseling. Jangan pernah menyerah, bagaimana pun keberlangsungan hubungan berpasangan harus diupayakan oleh Anda dan dia, yang memilih untuk menikah.

"Berbicaralah lebih sering dan jujur satu sama lain. Diskusikan berbagai hal, dari hal-hal yang membuat Anda merasa frustasi juga apresiasi. Berjuanglah untuk menyelesaikan berbagai masalah bersama pasangan. Jangan terjebak pada siapa yang benar dan salah saat menyelesaikan masalah. Tetap jaga hubungan Anda melalui komunikasi, seks, afeksi, saling memahami dan peduli satu sama lain. Bumbui juga hubungan dengan humor," saran Dr Romance.

OUR FATHER KNOWS BEST

OUR FATHER KNOWS BEST WHAT'S BEST FOR US,
SO WHY WE SHOULD COMPLAIN,
WE ALWAYS WANT THE SUNSHINE,
BUT HE KNOWS THERE MUST BE RAIN.

WE LIKE THE SOUND OF LAUGHTER,
AND THE MERRIMENT OF CHEER,
BUT OUR HEARTS WOULD LOSE THEIR TENDERNESS,
IF WE NEVER SHED A TEAR.

OUR FATHER TESTS US OFTEN,
WITH SUFFERING AND WITH SORROW,
HE TESTS US; NOT TO PUNISH US,
BUT TO HELP US MEET TOMORROW.

FOR GROWING TREES ARE STRENGTHENED,
WHEN THEY WITHSTAND THE STROM,
AND THE SHARP CUT OF THE CHISEL,
GIVES THE MARBLE GRACE AND FORM.

OUR FATHER NEVER HURTS US NEEDLESSLY,
AND HE NEVER WASTE OUR PAIN,
FOR EVERY LOSS HE SENDS TO US,
IS FOLLOWED BY A RICH GAIN.

AND WHEN WE COUNT THE BLESSINGS,
THAT GOD HAS SO FREELY SENT,
WE WILL FIND NO CAUSE FOR MURMURING,
AND NO TIME TO LAMENT.

FOR OUR FATHER LOVES HIS CHILDREN,
AND TO HIM ALL THINGS ARE PLAIN,
SO HE NEVER SENDS US PLEASURE,
WHEN THE SOUL'S DEEP NEED IS PAIN.

SO WHENEVER WE ARE TROUBLED,
AND WHEN EVERYTHING GOES WRONG,
IT IS JUST GOD WORKING IN US,
TO MAKE OUR SPIRIT STRONG.

Women's Day

 

First International women’s day was celebrated on 28th February 1909 in USA and after that it became a day of women.

International Women’s day is celebrated on 8th day of march in every year. It is also called as International Working women’s day. The day is devoted to women and women’s day is the special day for social awareness by paying respect, appreciation and love towards women for their achievements in various field. It is not just a mixture of valentines day & Mother’s day as many people take this as in many regions. The day should be of celebration for the success of women in various fields such as politics, social or technology.

First International women’s day was celebrated on 28th February 1909 in USA and after that it became a day of women.

On the occasion of International Women’s Day 2012, United nations theme is to improve women and end huger & poverty. This is the day to aware people about the independence of women and to make them respect women as women play an important role in our society.

WOMEN'S DAY MESSAGE

Did you ever think like this?

Do you know?

A human body can bear only up to 45 Del (unit) of pain.

But at the time of giving birth, a woman feels up to 57 Del of pain.

This is similar to 20 bones getting fractured at a time!

Do we realize that still we give pain to our mother by disobeying them and by not regarding them?

 

WOMEN'S DAY MESSAGES

Behind every successful man

Is a woman who is getting ahead of him!

Three cheers to the woman of tomorrow!

Happy Woman’s Day!

 WOMEN'S DAY QUOTES

“God made woman beautiful and foolish

beautiful, that man might love her

and foolish, that she might love him.”

WOMEN'S DAY TEXT

You can do almost anything

You put your mind to

You can swim the deepest ocean

And climb the highest peak

Be a doctor or fly a plane

You can face adversity and still walk tall.

You are strong,

Beautiful, compassionate and much more

That words could ever say!

Today is yours and so is ever other day.

Happy Women’s day!

WOMEN IN EVERY PART OF MEN’S LIFE

I was born

A woman was there

To hold me : My mother

I grew as a child,

A woman was there

To care for me,

To play with me: My sister

I went to school,

 A woman was there

To help me learn: My Teacher

I become depressed, whenever I lost,

A woman was there

To offer a shoulder: My wife

I become tough,

A woman was there

To melt me: My daughter

I am dying,

A woman is there

To absorb me in: My Motherland

Tell me what should I do!

NOW, he is gone!
He won't come back to me..
He doesn't want me anymore!

Tell me, HOW??
How am I supposed to live without him??
HOW?? Anybody can tell me!

How am I supposed to carry on??
When all that I have been living for is gone!!

I hope that one day we will back together!! That is what I really want!
we will back together, and we will build a happy family..
That is what my dream.. but it was only my dream!!
It is just a dream of mine is coming to an end.

I won't blame you, because I know how bad I was to you..
and maybe, it deserves for me!

One important thing is, I love him!!
I LOVE HENTO so much! :'(

Masihkah Bumi disebut sebagai Ibu?

Tanggal 8 maret adalah perayaan hari perempuan sedunia. Tahun 2012 ini International Women's Day (IWD) mengambil tema 'Connecting girls, inspiring futures'. Sedangkan PBB mengambil tema 'Empoer Rural Women-End Hunger and Poverty'.
Berdasarkan kenyataan bahwa, tidak mungkin mencitakan perdamaian, keamanan dan kemajuan sosial jika masih ada hak-hak manusia yang di langgar. Singkatnya, jika mayoritas perempuan masih ditimpangkan, maka IWD harus terus di peringati.
Pada satu sisi, hubungan gender menjadi satu persoalan tersendiri, padahal secara fakta persoalan emansipasi kaum perempuan masih belum mendapat tempat yang sepenuhnya bisa di terima.
Secara konsep, emansipasi telah diterima, akan tetapi konsekuensi dari pelaksanaan emansipasi itu sendiri masi belumlah seideal yang di harapkan. Kaum perempuan diberi kebebasan untuk memperoleh pendidikan dan kesempatan untuk bekerja tetapi mereka tetap saja di ikat dengan norma-norma patriarkhi yang realtif menghambat dan memberi kondisi yang dilematis terhadap posisi perempuan.
Pemberdayaan perempuan di desa-desa memang terikan dengan kelapan dan kemiskinan. Rendahnya pengeluaran keluarga akan berdampak pada rendahnya partisipasi penduduk perempuan terhadap pendidikan. Asumsi kunonya, 'perempuan disekolahkan tinggi-tinggi ujungnya toh juga berakhir di rumah dan dapur'. Oleh karena itu yang lebih diutamakan adalah pendidikan anak laki-laki.
Belum lagi sejak 1998 upah buruh perempuan di desa menurun dari tahun ke tahun. Kecenderungan penurunan terjadi hampir di semua provinsi. Kondisi itu di duga terkait dengan krisis ekonomi yang terjadi sejak 1997 yang menyebabkan banyaknya pemutusan hubungan kerja yang lebih banyak terjadi pada perkerja perempuan.
Di sisi lain, kaun perempuan di perbolehkan berkerja dengan cacaran harnya sebagai penambah pencari nafkah keluarga sehingga mereka berkerja harnya di anggap sebagai "working for lipstick" belum lagi kewajiban utama mengasuh anak di bebankan sepenuhnya kepada perempuan.
Secara kenyataan saja, emansipasi masih menemukan persoalan tersendiri, apalagi gender yang merupakan konsepsi yang sangat mengharapkan kesetaraan hubungan yang serasi dan harmonis antara kaum perempuan dan kaun pria.
Entah apa yang terjadi, ketimpangan masih saja terjadi, padahal bumi adalah simbol "Ibu". Yang melahirkan, menyusui, dan yang membesarkan penghuninya. Masih layakkah kita menyebut bumi sebagai Ibu? Ketika penghuninya masih memandang perempuan dengan sebelah mata.

This is about what I feel..

You will never feel, how much pain is that until you really losing someone that you really love.
Like a nightmare come to your life and not only in your dream!
When he is gone, I just regretted and feel so stupid and I realize that he won't come back for me anymore.

No matter how much you love him, he won't care anymore,
because his heart already broken before yours.
And when he found someone else that replace your position in his heart,
You will feel like so much pain and really regret that you get,
but one thing that you should know, its too late to regret!

Why he have to go when I realize that my heart can't lose him??
Why I am so stupid to hurt him??
Why I can make him stay with me till forever??
Why when I was with him, I never say "I Love you"
until he is gone? WHY??

The answer is because I am so stupid as a woman!
I'm so regret, :((((( and everything is just too late..
I wish I could undo this time, to fix it and to say that I can't lose him!
Because I really love him, no matter what.. :(

Hento, Please don't go :(

I know, everything was happened to us, just like nightmare for you..

I know how bad I was to you,

but one thing that you should know that I love you more than everything,

I can't lost you..

even I know, its too late to say it!

I don't know, whether you care or you don't care anymore to me..

Give me a chance, :(

Can you please stay with me?????

Don't leave me alone.. PLEASE!

Pleaseeeee.. Don't go! Don't leave me! :'(

 

   

Someone that I want is you, all that I need is you!

I apologize about everything was happened, 

just give me one more chance to live with you..

I beg, Mr. H.. :(

I regret, because of me you got so much pains..

Now, one thing that I know, that now you hate me so much

and you don't want me anymore.. :(

I hope, someday we will back together,

you will give me one more chance,

you will forgive me,

and you will change ur mind.

Because, I love you so much.. :(

What is White day?

White Day is a romantic holiday celebrated in Japan, Taiwan and South Korea. The holiday falls on March 14, one month exactly after Valentine’s Day. Tradition in these countries holds that women are supposed to give men romantic gifts on Valentine’s Day, while men are supposed to return the favor on White Day.

Valentine’s Day in parts of Asia has expanded beyond the Western version of the holiday. Instead of giving gifts to spouses or boyfriends, some women in Japan feel duty-bound to present gifts of chocolate to all male co-workers. The tradition is called giri-choco, combining the Japanese word for obligation with the common word for chocolate. Girls may also give honmei-choco, candy to loved ones, or tomo-choco, candy for friends.

In 1978, the Japanese National Confection Industry recommended that men return the favor on March 14th, not coincidentally boosting confection sales. The day was originally called Marshmallow Day, as Ishimura Manseido, a candy company, created marshmallow treats specifically as gifts for this new holiday. Other companies soon followed, specializing in white chocolate treats. The day eventually became referred to as White Day, although gifts of regular dark chocolate are now common.

Gifts given on White Day often exceed the simple presents of Valentine’s Day. Presents to lovers and wives are supposed to be expensive, such as lingerie or jewelry. Men also conform to giri-choco, returning the favor to female co-workers out of obligation. This can occasionally lead to confusion, as romantic gifts can be mistaken for obligatory ones and vice-versa.

Some scorn is leveled at the celebration, as it is considered by some to be a purely commercial holiday. The confusing issues of obligation and romance are seen by some as a desperate attempt to boost chocolate sales. This has led some Japanese and Westerners to label White Day a “Hallmark Holiday,” using guilt and social obligation to boost sales of gift items.

In recent years, a new tradition has been created in Korea called Black Day. This is comparable the ironic American tradition of Singles Awareness Day, a holiday that bitterly mocks the prevalent romantic traditions of Valentine’s Day. Black Day is held on the 14th of April, one month after White Day. Traditionally, those who received no Valentine’s or White Day gifts gather in restaurants or at parties to eat noodles in black bean sauce.

White Day is a relatively new holiday, but seems to be quite popular throughout Japan. One informal survey of 13,000 Japanese citizens suggested that around 57% purchased or received gifts for the holiday. Three percent, or about 390 respondents, said that they gave or received between five and twenty gifts. Despite detractors, the holiday appears to be gaining more fans each year.